Having been in a solid relationship with my boyfriend going on 6 years now, I think I’v come to learn the Do’s and Don’ts on this relationship thing. I can admit it was NOT easy conforming myself, and changing parts of my bratty/girly/overly emotional ways to make my boyfriend happy. But it’s so worth it when you see your relationship grow stronger, and yourself grow more mature and wiser.
I’ve become a little expert in the field of love and relationships, and am constantly giving my friends advice on how to get a guy to like you, keep a man, or let him know that you’re not the one for games. I’ll have future blogs pertaining to each of those topics but for now I’m going to give you 10 Ways to Keep Your Man Happy.
My boyfriend helped me with some of these points, feel free to add on to the list by commenting below….And trust me every guy/girl/spouse wants these things. If you truly care about your relationship, then consider all of these options.
1. Cooking and Cleaning- I know it sounds extremely cliche’. I even still hate cooking and cleaning everyday, but if you live with your spouse it’s only right to show them that you have that inner Martha Stewart in you. Every man wants to know that his woman can take care of the house, even if you have to get strict with him by reminding him to “put his cups in the sink!”. It shows him that you’re the woman who will help him build a clean and clear home. Any dude who’s ok with you being a slob…..actually just might be the guy for you ,if you’re ok with being a slob!
2. Keep it Fun and Sexy- It’s a MUST that you continue to do those cute, flirty things you did during the first year of your relationship. You always want to keep your man’s attention on you, and remaining the fun, sexy, flirty girl that he fell for in the beginning is important. Surprise him with a little dance, feed him dinner like a baby, and kiss him passionately just because. Always keep it fun and sexy. Make him want to be home with you and not out with his friends.
3. Be Spontaneous- The same way you love when he surprises you, you need to make sure to surprise him! Come home from work with a random “just because” gift for him, make him a sandwich because you can tell he’s hungry, or just hop in the shower with him unexpectedly. It’s these spontaneous moments that really help define major parts of your relationship, and strengthen his overall attraction to you. Nobody wants to be with someone who sticks to the same routine without ever stepping outside of their box. Those spontaneous moments are so important to a healthy relationship.
4. Always be Admirable and Desirable- Everything you do from the way you comb your hair, to the way you dress, how you speak and act, to the way you chew your food should be admired and desired by your man. Your man should look at you as the epitome of what every woman (aside from his Mother of course) should be. Don’t be sloppy, boring, unlady like, or just plain ole whack. Own your style and swag, and others will admire you for just being you, especially your man!
5. Learn to Shut Up- Ladies I wanted to put this as #1 but didn’t want to upset you so soon. This was the hardest part for me to grasp, and still is. But sometimes you just have to “STFU!!!!”. You’re not always right, you don’t always have to tell him how you feel, and sometimes you need to just LISTEN!!! As women we’re extremely emotional, sensitive, and feel the need to speak our minds any chance we get. However, let’s look at how much drama us females get into compared to males…..hmmmm. Maybe if we just shut the hell up sometimes we could avoid a plethora of drama and confrontation. We can learn a lot from our relationships that can really help us in life, and this is definitely one of them. Shut up, and listen!!!!
6. Be A Freak When He Least Expects It and Fulfill His Every Fantasy- Ladies this is a MUST!!!! Sometimes you got to just put on that freakem dress and remind him that he doesn’t need to go anywhere else but home to you. This includes but not limited to: Dirty Dances, Role Play, Dress Up, Strip Teases, Whip Cream…lots of Whip Cream and Baby Oil, Random BJ’s….ya damn right, Random sex while he’s sleep (Every man wants to wake up to some good mouth love let’s just be honest), Sex Games, Porn, Homemade Porn, etc etc etc…Be sure to fulfill your man’s every fantasy or someone else will. If you’re too shy, then that might be a problem. Bring out that inner Kim Kardashian or somebody else will be satisfying your man. When I first got with my boyfriend I couldn’t imagine ever doing half the things I’ve done with him and for him, but 6 years later I see that it all worked out!
7. Stimulate his Mind- Good sex and a nice body gets old. A lot of girls know how to tighten up the vagina muscles so you’re not that poppin boo. If you really want to turn you man on always, you HAVE to stimulate his mind. Be that driving force that makes him think about things he’s never thought about, teach him things nobody else ever would care to teach him, and open his mind to parts of life he never knew existed. Once you have a man mentally, then you have him FOREVER!!!
8. Be his Best Friend and His #1 Fan- Me and my man talk like we’re best friends. I tell him everything, and he tells me everything (when he actually remembers to mention it LOL). After so long we can still be away from each other and talk on the phone for hours on end. We laugh at the same things, like the same movies (sometimes), and enjoy life together….just like I do with my female bestie. It’s fun being in a relationship with someone who is genuinely my friend. I know we could never really “break up” because even if we did, we’d always have to talk to each other as friends, and then all the feelings come back into play. So it’s just a beautiful thing to be dating someone you can call your best friend. And you HAVE to be his #1 support system. Every man needs a ride or die chick who supports him through the ups and downs. You should always be either giving your man advice, cheering him on, or just listening to him talk about his passions until he feels like stopping. Just like you’re a crazy Trey Songz fan, you need to be the same way with your real life man!
9. Don’t Be So Damn Clingy!!!- OMG this is one thing about females that really annoys me. I was never a clingy type of girl so when I see my friends doing it, it really grinds my gears. Every man loves a chase, so why are you going to just make it so easy for him to know your every move, know that you’re constantly sweating him, and that you’re not going anywhere. Make it so that he picks up the phone, or texts you like “where you at, what you doing”. Females STOP being too clingy on these men, they DON’T like it, and you make yourself less desirable and the girls who “play hard to get” more desirable. When my boyfriend goes away on road trips for his job, I sometimes purposely don’t call him and wait for him to call me, just because I refuse to be that girl who’s constantly clocking her man. I also want to know that he misses me just as much as I miss him. Put your phone down ladies, stop asking people to watch him at the club, BREATH, STRETCH, SHAKE, LET IT GO!!!! Woosah, and just be a girlfriend who’s ok with missing her boyfriend. It’s good to miss him, that don’t mean you have to be on the phone with him all day until you two are around each other. DAMN!!!
10. Don’t Let Him Spend ALL His Money All the Time- Sexiest thing a woman can do is after going on a few dates, when the bill comes, you hit him with “It’s ok I got it”. WHAAAAT!!!! Instant erection ladies! Show him that you are independent, reliable, and NOT a gold digger. A man wants to know he’s with a woman who can stand on her own, and not constantly have her hand out expecting something. That is by far the sexiest attribute a woman can have. Make your own money ladies, and help him pay those bills. A relationship is all about team work. You and your spouse are a TEAM, and one shouldn’t be doing more than the other. Share the financial responsibilities.
Disclaimer: This blog post is NOT just geared toward heterosexual relationships. It doesn’t matter if you’re Gay, Lesbian, Bi-Sexual, whatever. Whoever you are dating, and if you’re really into them, you need to consider these 10 tips because trust me they will get you far!
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What would you add to the list?
Do you think I was too harsh on the ladies fellas?
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